How Can I Help My Baby Sleep? Here's Some Help

"People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one!" (Leo J Burke)

Why won't my baby sleep through the night?

Baby Insomnia? Read on...

Many new parents panic when their baby won't sleep according to a set pattern. A baby will sleep when she wants to! So long as you realize this and stop worrying that you're doing something wrong, you can relax and enjoy your baby more.

Since we aren't born with insomnia (I tend to think it's something we develop), baby insomnia probably doesn't exist. However many babies do have sleep difficulties and even sleep disorders.

Babies worry mainly about three things, she's hungry, she's thirsty or she's uncomfortable (dirty nappy, too hot too cold...)

If all the above are ok then congratulations, you're doing a great job!

Being a parent is the most important job you'll ever have and you're expected to know everything without being taught!

There are so many things a new mum and dad have to learn when a new baby comes along. Sometimes friends and family rally around to give helpful advice. Trouble is the advice given with the best of intentions, is not necessarily the right advice for you or your baby.

Grandparents sometimes will try to help not realizing their knowledge is about twenty five to thirty years old and not necessarily applicable to today. Having a new baby is a huge learning curve.

Feeding, teething, crying...But the hardest of them all and the most heartfelt cry is "Why won't my baby sleep? Why does he keep waking up when he's not hungry? Why does my infant sleep during the day and then wake up at night?"

Don't expect your baby to fit into a mould

A baby is a little person with unique needs and wants. He probably doesn't realize that he's not supposed to wake up and make a noise at 3 am! That will come later. He just knows that he's hungry/wet/something hurts or he's just plain bored!

Its not easy for new parents. Parents are the most sleep deprived people on the earth. You will get through it, one day it's going to get better. For now, just realize you're not alone - most adults are going through, have been through or will go through exactly what you are suffering now!

What the "perfect" baby is supposed to do! A baby sleep schedule

It's important to realize there is no such thing as a perfect baby! They're all special and they're all different. The worst thing you can do is compare your baby's sleep patterns with your friends' babies. You may assume you have a baby sleep problem when in fact you don't. For one thing you may not be getting the whole story, for another your baby may simply require less sleep. It doesn't matter!

There are certain guides out there that give us the approximate amount of sleep a baby needs at certain ages. They are very helpful and can help you plan ahead, but just remember the word approximate and don't worry if your baby sleeps slightly less or more than the stated times.

Newborn to 3 weeks	16 to 20 hours per day
3-6 weeks	16 to 18 hours per day
6 weeks-3 1/2 to 4 months	9 to 12 hours at night plus 2 daytime naps (roughly 2 to 3 hours each)
4-6 months	Same as previous except the night sleeps may get longer and the naps will shorten
9 months	11 to 12 hours a night plus 2 naps of approximately 1 hour each

The night time sleeps will remain at 11 to 12 hours while the naps will get shorter until they are only taking one nap. The naps will peter out from 4 to 6 years.

Tips for helping baby sleep through the night

Allow her to go to sleep in her cot
This will make sure she associates her cot with sleeping.

Don't rock her to sleep first. Let her learn how to go to sleep by herself.
You will be teaching her good sleeping habits. Make sure the room is dark and her cot is comfortable. Don't use too many covers so she gets too hot.

If you hear her during the night, don't rush in to her straight away.
Babies may wake several times during the night, most times they simply go back to sleep. If she becomes distressed, of course see to her.

Develop a bedtime ritual
This can be a warm bath, a bedtime story, a cuddle - make it something you will be able to stick to. Don't make it too long and don't make it too exiting, otherwise she'll be wide awake and raring to go! A bedtime ritual reinforces in your baby's mind that it's time for bed.

Let her have her favorite toy.
If your older baby has a toy or small blanket they are attached to, its ok to put it in to soothe them. When they wake up they will feel more secure if its there. Make sure the toy is safe though.

Try not to take her out of her cot unless its necessary.
She'll work out very quickly that bedtime is over if you do! Just speak to her reassuringly, try a back rub.

And a few don'ts...

Don't put your baby down on her tummy
Putting her on her tummy may increase the risk of SIDS. She may inhale more carbon dioxide and she may overheat. Always put her on her back.

Don't make going to bed a punishment for small toddlers.
This just tells them that bed is a "bad place" and you will have trouble getting them in there at night.

Never threaten any child with "monsters"
Don't tell them "the monsters will come unless you go to sleep" It will frighten them and of course they won't sleep.

Should I have my baby sleep with me in my bed?

This is also called co sleeping and there are pros and cons to this question. In the end it is up to you and your partner to decide if will work for both of you (and baby).

Some advantages are

You are close to him if he needs attention.
It's easier if you breast feed
Many parents feel it helps them to bond with baby.

The disadvantages?

You may be creating a situation where your baby will not sleep on his own and suffer "separation anxiety" if you try to force him into his own bed later!
If you or your partner drink heavily, smoke or take drugs, baby's better off sleeping separately.
If you and your partner are heavy sleepers, you may roll over onto him accidentally.
If you are both light sleepers, your baby's snuffles and movements may keep you awake. Babies can be quite restless when asleep!
Other things which I'll leave to your imagination...

However if this is something you want to do, make sure of a few essentials

There are no gaps between the headboard and the mattress for his head to get stuck.
No loose bedding or pillows around him which could suffocate.
The mattress is firm, forget water beds.
Always put him on his back wherever he sleeps.
A mattress on the floor is the safest option. If he rolls off this he won't get hurt.

If you move around a lot in your sleep its probably best to put your baby in his own cot. You can still be close by having the cot next to your bed.

What about a pacifier? It helps my baby sleep better

If it soothes your baby and keeps the peace then use one by all means. They've been around since kingdom come so they can't be all bad! Its far better than putting him to sleep with a bottle.

Of course nothing works for everyone and babies are no different. Just try and be consistent in everything you do. This sets the ground rules and gives your baby security as well. Relax and enjoy them while you can!

A safe answer to baby insomnia?

Until now there was nothing we could recommend for young babies with sleeping problems that was safe...

Triple Complex Sleep Tonic contains Calcium Sulphate, Magnesium Phosphate and Calcium Phosphate and can help to restore healthy sleep patterns naturally.

It helps the body relax and produce all the hormones essential for healthy sleep.

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"I took your Triple Complex Sleep Tonic while I was pregnant and have continued ever since because it really helps me to sleep well. I have also used it in a little bit of warm water for my baby and for my three year old son, who have both inherited the family insomnia and find that they sleep soundly. It is truly wonderful to find a product which does so much good without the risks attached to the drugs that are usually prescribed!" Lindi B.

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